I used to be the person who boasted that I was a straight talker - saying how I feel, leaving the pretty bows on the floor, and delivering 'truth' to those that requested or needed it.
It won me as many friends... as it did enemies... all knowing that I would be straight up, whether they could handle it or not, and most importantly, whether they were read
BE HIS/HER ISLAND.
No relationship is easy, but... No relationship should be the death of you, either mentally, emotionally, physically or spiritually.
IT TAKES TWO PEOPLE, WITH CLEAR AGREED GOALS, WHO ARE WILLING AND ACTIVELY PULLING THEIR WEIGHT, AND EACH OTHER'S, FOR INTERDEPENDENCE AND SUCCESS.
Rather than focusing on all the things you will not and can not be to him/her, focus on taking a Doctorate in your partner, truly learning him/her, so you can...
Be Her/His Ant
"Your trust should be expensive. Do not cheapen it by giving it to those who do not deserve it, or have the means to maintain it. Make sure others can afford your trust, by making them earn it, and just like any self respecting Loan Company, keep an eye on the way your Lenders manage their credit. My trust is expensive. How much is yours? ." - Novena-Chanel Davies, The Equilibrium Coach® The Equilibrium Coach - The Goal Architect to Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Balance®-www.thee
One of the things I love about my work as a Counsellor/Psychotherapist is the studying and experiencing of others who so beautifully entrust me with their story. I am always honoured by their honesty.
The thing I have come to truly appreciate and recognise is that trauma is almost always traceable within the family tree.
Like the size of a distinctive nose, or face shape, generations are passed down the traumas and experiencing of their family. Almost like a family karma.
So, as a Coach who is also a Psychotherapist, I am often asked what kind of things to look out for when first meeting someone.
Yes, I do give some red flags, and also suggest finding out about their family dynamics, what roles they play, how they deal with conflict and how it is dealt with within their family, and of course, paying attention to some more key issues 😉. If you want to know more, feel free to message me and let's book a session.
TAKE OWNERSHIP FOR WHAT
YOU ALLOW INTO YOUR CUP
Friendships, Relationships, thoughts and things... if it does not make you feel good... if it does not make you a better person... do not pour it into your Cup of Life. Cover your Cup and close your mouth.
HOW YOU FEEL AFFECTS HOW YOU THINK.
HOW YOU THINK AFFECTS HOW YOU BEHAVE.
HOW YOU BEHAVE CREATES YOUR OUTCOMES.
YOUR OUTCOMES BECOME YOUR LIFE.
Pay attention to how you feel around people a
Let's stop allowing Society and Abusers to write and prescribe our healing scripts.
There's this thing that society and abusers push about having to be polite and explain, especially explaining and justifying your pain, and/or right to avoid or walking away from it.
Then the double standard comes when a victim or survivor who remains is then negatively judged and quizzed as to why they stayed, or why they tried to remain peaceful, forgiving, or offering chances for improved
BE THANKFUL FOR THE SMALL THINGS AND WATCH HOW THEY BECOME BIG THINGS
When was the last time you sat down, truly blocked out all of the noise
from technology, family, friends and life, and just said "Thank you".
The energy of appreciation attracts more things to be thankful for.
Take some time each day to simply reflect on all you have, how far you have come, how much you have accomplished, and the good that you have given... and then say, "Thank you".
When was the last
IN A WORLD FULL OF ASSUMPTIONS, BE THE ONE WHO ASKS.
We live in a world where we are continuously stood as the target point of others assumptions and projections.
From assumptions about how we think, what we feel, and who we are, few take the time, and commit themselves to truly knowing by first, asking.
Our assumptions are based upon our own truth, projections, fears, hopes, and biases.
Be the one who asks.
With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day a