Understanding the reaction to Stress as Water Submersion....
When submerged in water you have the choice to overreact (fighting against the current, risking exhaustion and drowning), Under-react (becoming overwhelmed and completely giving up to the water pressure and drowning), or learning to find peace and strength within it - finding your balance and allowing yourself to float to the top.
Replace 'water' with 'stress' or 'problems', and begin recognising your way of 'coping' and possibly self-sabotaging.
Mine used to be a shift be
"I TELL IT AS IT IS... I'M BLUNT...". SOUND FAMILIAR?
BLUNT
Belittling
Language
Unearthing
Narcissistic
Tendencies
Or;
Bullsh×t
Language
Underlining
Nasty
Tendencies
I used to be the person who boasted that I was a straight talker - saying how I feel, leaving the pretty bows on the floor, and delivering 'truth' to those that requested or needed it.
It won me as many friends... as it did enemies... all knowing that I would be straight up, whether they could handle it or not, and most importantly, whether they were read
KNOW THY... SELVES
There is a belief that knowing ourselves means knowing and only embracing, connecting with, and showcasing the 'likeable' and agreeable characteristics of our being.
You know, the kind person. The loving person. The patient person. The self who meditates, is slow to anger, and regularly gives to others.
To believe that we are only the positive, creates a dissonance within us - birthing a desperate need to cling on to the positive self concept we have created. You hear it al
YOU CANNOT OUT RUN YOUR PROBLEMS.
YOU CANNOT OUT RUN YOUR PROBLEMS.
Yes, you read it correctly... you cannot outrun, out climb, dig deep enough under (and not suffocate), or comfortably keep dodging your problems... THEY WILL CATCH UP WITH YOU, TRIP YOU OVER, SURFACE, AND BLOCK YOU.
So instead of avoiding them, stop, take a deep breath, and begin planning the path towards dealing with them.
Problems are like Ninjas - they lurk in the shadows, waiting to get you.
LEARN HOW TO TACKLE YOUR NINJAS.
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TODAY I GET OUT OF MY OWN WAY.
Sometimes we are our own worse enemy - we undermine ourselves, we sabotage our success, we ignore our desires, and repress our needs. We act as our own nemesis, actively seeking to find the imperfections within ourselves, and constantly placing ourselves in positions, relationships and circumstances that do not nourish our growth.
We do a better job than our rivals, at blocking our happiness.
So just for today, promise yourself to get out of your own way....
Say "Sorry".
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YOUR TRUST SHOULD BE EXPENSIVE
YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE; YOUR PRESENCE IS PRECIOUS; YOUR TRUST IS EXPENSIVE.
It should only be given to Exclusive Members, and never cheapened by carelessly awarding it to those who have not earned it, or lack the means to maintain it.
Before rushing in to award anyone your full trust, first make sure they can afford your trust. Just like any self respecting Loan Company, check their 'Credit History' - do they breech other's trust? Do they gossip? Do they steal? Can their mo
WHAT YOU THINK REALLY CAN AND DOES (OFTEN) BECOME A REALITY: A SNIPPET FROM MY AFTERNOON
Today I spent the afternoon preparing for clients, and reminding myself just how fascinating the human brain actually is. Did you know that the same part of the brain is fired up when we imagine doing something, as when we are ACTUALLY doing it. Be it imagining running a race, fighting, arguing, or achieving a goal. Now can you see why those dreams where you have argued with someone leaves you still a little 'irritable' and suspicious when you wake up? Lol. Your brain really
AN EMPTY GIFT BOX ONLY PLEASES THOSE WITH NO INTENTION OF LOOKING INSIDE.
CONFIDENCE
SELF ESTEEM
HAPPINESS
Where there is a pursuit to 'prove it', there is a lack of it.
From posting pictures of 'a happy family', or searching for external validation through clothes, being seen at parties and events, or being in the 'in crowd'...
if it has to be shown to be proven to others (and truly, yourself), it is not truly believed within you.
The real pursuit needs to be finding, giving and filling up yourself, first.
Don't get sidetracked beautifully w
BE WHO YOU SAY YOU ARE IN THE INTERVIEWS.
If I read a copy of your resumé, took the time to read through your Linkedin profile, or sat in on one of your interviews, would it be a true reflection of who you are, right now?
Many give the 'sell', gain interest, respect and position, and then if lucky, the 'job', but few truly follow through on what and who they say they are in the interviews.
Look through your CV/Resumé... and then work on maintaining the characteristics and motivation you say you have.
PERSONAL DEVE
SILENCE YOUR FEARS BY DOING WHAT YOU FEAR. CHALLENGE, YOU.
There will always be a good excuse to put off until tomorrow, what you can do today.
There will always be distractions.
There will always be unexpected circumstances that pop up and get in the way.
There will always be someone else who did it faster or reached higher.
There will always be someone else who makes it look easier than it feels for you.
Does that mean you stop trying?
Does that mean you give up before you even start?
Does that mean you start believing the v