Admit it, we all either know that one person who struggles to admit they are wrong, or struggles to apologise. If you do not, check if that person is you... Sometimes it is not that they do not know that they are wrong, or that they could have done better, it is that admitting it aloud awakens their deepest fears and insecurities that they are not good enough, always wrong or making mistakes, and, once again reminds them of the inherited shame they carry.
Our need for their apology; an acknowledgement of wrong doing, shakes their core and unearths the voice within that constantly whispers... "You are not good enough.. it's always your fault." It is because of this that I actively steer clear of anyone who never believes they are wrong, or those who need you to be wrong 'too', in order to share the blame (shame) and responsibility.
Sometimes it is simply all you, and that is OK. There is a power in owning your stuff, showing self awareness, reflection and growth, by knowing abd admitting wrong doing, or feeling guilty (not shame - guilt and shame are different, feel free to ask me to clarify if you are unsure), and moving to correct it.
Own it, learn from it, grow from it, and do better. Simple.
And for those who cannot own it?? Leave them intact, with their denial. You do not need an apology to move on, let go, and live your life.
SOMETIMES WE NEED TO JUST ACCEPT THAT AN APOLOGY MAY DESTROY SOMETHING WITHIN THEM, AND SIMPLY MOVE ON, WITHOUT IT.
LEAVE THEM INTACT, WITH THEIR DENIAL.
Sending you all into this Sunday with love, patience, forgiveness, and compassion.
With that said, I am wishing you all a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations.
From Novena-Chanel Davies, The Equilibrium Coach - The Goal Architect to Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Balance® - www.theequilibriumcoach.com