I used to be the person who boasted that I was a straight talker - saying how I feel, leaving the pretty bows on the floor, and delivering 'truth' to those that requested or needed it.
It won me as many friends... as it did enemies... all knowing that I would be straight up, whether they could handle it or not, and most importantly, whether they were ready, able, or safe to receive it.
It was something I was taught to do - it came from a place of not being protected myself from the 'reality' of others 'truths' that they delivered unsolicited and without filter. Thus, with reflection, it came from a place of pain - a fighting defence that kept people at a distance, yet naively thought to give people the honesty and straightforwardness I craved.
It took many years to learn the difference between being honest and open, with being honest, hurtful and unkempt. Yes, a tongue which cannot be held, is an unkempt tongue - it is unruly, wild and unsophisticated.
Until we learn to communicate with clarity, purpose and love - truly listening, to what is said and unsaid, without the need to interrupt, dismiss or defend, we will continously fail to experience the freedom which comes through the art of deep connection and communication.
Being unfiltered and 'Blunt', or saying what you think, first, before allowing yourself to not only taste, but fully digest your words and intentions, is the boast of a fool.
It is often a sign of some unprocessed trauma. Ask yourself... Who hurt me? Who speaks to me without filter, or behaves without care?
Speak with wisdom.
Listen with patience.
Learn with openness.
Today I practice mastering my tongue, processing my emotions, understanding my intentions, and communicating with love.
I love you.
With that said, I am wishing you all a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations.
From Novena-Chanel Davies, The Equilibrium Coach - The Goal Architect to Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Balance® - www.theequilibriumcoach.com / www.novena-chanel.com
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